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There will be growth in the spring!

There will be growth in the spring!

The sun is out and the sky is blue on one of the last few days of February. A lovely and crisp winter day.

They say the things you want most are those that you have the most resistance to. It was brought to my attention just over a year ago that I am clearly holding myself back from success. No one and nothing else. A light went on inside me that day and I have been working hard to stop doing that. Now I find myself with contradicting emotions and the best  example I can give as explanation are frustration and excitement in equal parts. Continually pondering why I have spent the majority of my life denying myself my biggest dream of being a successful artist. Why do I still find it hard to believe that I already am? I feel like a fraud. When people praise me with compliments about how talented I am I often feel surprised and fight the urge to look around and see who they are talking about. It sounds irrational but my old story is strong and I am really attached to it.

The worst part is that now that I am aware I have been doing it, I don't want to do it anymore, but can't figure out how to stop. I've spent the last 10 years or more on a path to self discovery and growth. Books and therapists and tea dates with wise friends have brought me such a long way from the negative depressed complainer I once was. I do not discount my wins, both big and small, and continuously and purposely strive to step out of my comfort zone to become a better and stronger version of myself. But the groove is deep.

On the flip side I am really excited about all the ideas I have for new pieces and pretty things to make. But I am not making them. I'm talking about making them. I should be in the studio right now finishing the half a dozen jewelry pieces that have been sitting on my bench for over a year. Literally that long. Some longer. Instead I clean the house and fill my schedule with tea dates, phone dates, and walks. WHY? The fear. Fear of success? Fear of failure? Fear of losing control? Not really sure which it is. I use to be afraid of everything and intimidated by everyone. Even though I don't feel that way half as much these days, I know I still have a long way to go. 

What prompted this post is that I just spent the last two months preparing for a big cross country wholesale trade show and feared myself right out of success. I was afraid I would get so many orders that I wouldn't be able to make them fast enough which seems really hilarious now! A huge gamble for seemingly no payoff. Of course I learned a lot and have gotten over my fear of doing a show out of state and figuring out the logistics involved in flying to a show and packing all of my work and displays and buying lights and making a fancy line sheet. These are all great things and I am relieved they are done. I made connections and got myself seen. I did not feel afraid. I did not feel unprepared in any way. My booth looked better than it ever has and I was proud of my work. But something deep inside (lack of confidence and nagging self doubt?) kept me from getting one single order. I watched everyone around me writing them all weekend and kept a positive outlook and a smile on my face and at the end felt nothing but disappointment and confusion. And embarrassment. The protective wall I've built around myself has become something I can't take down even when I want to. I've put so much energy into trying to fit into societal boxes, constantly feeling like a misfit, only to realize I am here to make my own box.

So after a martini and a flight home and a few days to lick my wounds I am feeling many other things. Relieved. Accomplished. Excited. Aware. I now have time to make the things I want to make. To not resent pushing them aside for another year because I have the need to crank out orders. I get to go into my beautiful home studio and make whatever I want and I know from experience that getting started is the hardest part. That showing up to make the work leads to new work, and that I can lose myself in the process and forget all my worries. My lesson is to let go. To allow myself to be who I am and to stop hiding from it all.

I envy most those who can step into their true selves fearlessly. They are the ones who shine the brightest. I want so badly to shine.

There will be growth in the spring.

1 comment

Cynthia Marks

I’ve read this three times and applaud you willingness to be so open and honest. I’ve always said if you’re going to make it, you gotta sell, give or use it in some way. I was fearful of shows for years, only doing the juried regional at MMAA until after I retired. Then I started doing the Wellfield show, and after a couple of years, committed to only every other year. It was just too taxing to reinvent the wheel, every damn year. I’ve done well, but it goes down in profit a little every time, how many pots do people need, but the same people seem to buy every time. I don’t know much about enameling that will sell, your earrings are lovely and the plates beautifully executed. And, you did attend one of the few programs in the country, one of the best art schools, you were accepted and earned an MFA. A big deal!!! I always tell myself when I’m in panic mode, this too shall pass, keep working, you know more about this than 99% of the world. That is my confidence mantra, and sometimes I wrap a piece up, and start something else. And sometimes, I throw it in reclaim, or if it’s bee fired, take a hammer to it and throw it away. I had a friend in college that helped me with an enameled panel for a neck piece back in 1975. It was a big deal and I was in over my head, but she was making a living as a jeweler and working for Images. Anyway, she totally undid everything we learned at IU. She had me do the cloisonne piece on thin gauge sterling, maybe 18, using foils and transparents with silver wire. Terrifying, but the piece was lovely and I didn’t take a photo, it was for a principals wife while I was student teaching, the shit we agree too!! Anyway, my point is I really got out of my comfort zone and it worked. I went to a couple of workshops when I first retired and that kind of rejuvenated me. Then, last year, I finally got a nice, new studio and that helped. I’m 67 and finally have found my style and doing pretty well with sales, but two galleries, they get 40%. It’s hard, Brooke works her tail off and does big shows, several galleries, but she also has hand and wrist issues and the stress is huge. I wish I had a magic wand, or some concrete answers, the best thing for me is always research, usually lots of looking, drawing, reading and taking things in a new direction every couple of years. Good luck, and make the work. I get really depressed when I don’t work, but I’m also a loner and that helps, I really don’t enjoy socializing. Take care, much love!

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